Love, Trust and Forgiveness Makes for a Happy Marriage

1. Do you remember the first time you met your spouse?
Yes! Ours was an arranged marriage. He was my senior in college. I knew who he was in theory, I had seen him around but had never really spoken to him. I have a vague recollection of him congratulating me after I won a contest in college. I politely thanked him and then quickly ended the conversation as I didn’t even know his name. We then met formally after our parents spoke to each other during the third week of December 2011.

2. What was it about that her/ him that you really liked?
Well, he is handsome. But that was just a bonus according to me. He was well spoken, kind, shared the same values as me, loved his family and wanted his wife to grow along with him.

3. How do you express your affection for your spouse?
I love to surprise him! I’m always thinking of what to buy him (big or small) and how to make his birthdays more special. Other than that, I swing by text messages, pictures, phone conversations and then there is always a hug that says everything than words do and more!

4. The heart of marriage is memories. What are the fondest memories you have of your relationship during the little time you have been married?
Well, I hardly spent anytime with him during the first year of our marriage. He was in Singapore and I would run back to Chennai for work every chance I get, because I missed home and my work. I have lived in Chennai all my life and to suddenly throw it all away and go live in another country was hard. But Nikhil moved to Bombay a year back and we have had some of the best times there. Be it vacations, house parties or lazing around on a Sunday afternoon, I cherish everyone of them.

5. Tell us something about you that most people don’t know.
I am very sensitive and will easily give up on things. My mom is my biggest strength. She is my wall and she is the only one who can make me fight and become strong again. I don’t think I would have survived in the media if not for her.

6. Who has been the most important person in your life? Can you tell us about him or her?
I come from a very close knit family, and I am very close to all of them. I am daddy’s lil girl and I love him to death. My grandparents have had a great influence on me. My thatha was the love of my life and I used to call him my handsome man. We shared a lot together and had our special moments. He now watches over me and makes sure all good things come my way.

7. What is it that keeps a marriage ticking? What is your counsel to young couples about nurturing a long lasting relationship?
I never counsel. I think every couple makes their own set of rules in a marriage. But tolerance, trust, forgiveness and love is what keeps myself happy!

8. What do you think is the most fulfilling aspect of a successful marriage?
When I come home after a long day or in my case a long trip, my husband sits me down with a smile and gives me a foot rub if I am really exhausted. That smile and the short silence we share means more to me than a million words or extravagant gestures!